Assumptions: Though relative terms, cheap & expensive have been used with the assumption that all readers agree on the meaning of the terms.
Jeannie Mai, a fashion expert and TV personality most known for her role as the host of the Style Network Series ‘How Do I Look?’
mentioned on one of her shows that her bracelets were $5 each. It is tempting to see it as an attempt to be humble considering how gorgeous and glam she always look but the content of which she spoke those words convinced me.
Most people agree that certain people look gorgeous almost all the time.
Question is what made them gorgeous? Princess Diana, Michelle Obama, Beyoncé Knowles, Angelina Jolie, Halle Berry, Pippa Middleton have been famously agreed to be gorgeous.
Others include our very own Aisha Buhari, Omotola Jolade Ekeinde, Joke Silva, Toke Makinwa, Tiwa Salvage and Genevieve Nnaji to mention but few.
Oxford dictionary defines the word gorgeous as anything that is very beautiful and attractive; giving pleasure and enjoyment. This makes the word relevant not only to men and women but also to things like weather and places. However, regardless of what we refer to, beauty and attraction remain practically key in everyone’s view.
Now this topic is something I have pondered upon since I became free from school uniforms 🙂 and today I present to you my fashion hypothesis.
Hypothesis 1: You can wear cheap clothes and accessories and look gorgeous.
Hypothesis 2: You can mix cheap and expensive clothes and look gorgeous.
Hypothesis 3: You would look gorgeous only in expensive clothes.
With the aim of proofing them right or wrong, I conducted a survey (see http://goo.gl/forms/dz0FkdY9Jk) to get some insight into people’s opinion of what one should wear to look gorgeous; 36 people responded out of 50.
The result was amazing. About a-third of the people that participated felt strongly that all you needed to do is to combine your expensive clothes with the cheap ones while amazingly two-third felt even in your cheap clothes, you could still look gorgeous. The respondents were carefully selected to cut across several demographics – from old to young, employees, students to business owners all over the world. Surprisingly (or maybe not), none of the respondents believed you have to wear only expensive clothes to look gorgeous!
Do I agree with the majority? Well, yes and I’ll explain in my next post.
Even for someone like me who typically does not follow the Oscars, the recent award and speech of 31-year-old Lupita Nyongo’s resounded so loudly as to command attention. As you might already know, she now stands as the first African to win the award in the best supporting actress category1. However, what really caught the attention of so many was her speech on beauty and the evolution of her perception of this important concept.
In her speech, Lupita recounted how she had hated herself as a teenager because she felt black and ‘unbeautiful’. Winning an award of this caliber will obviously make the ugliest person change her mind and accept herself as beautiful, but that would not be the story of this champion. Following her speech, I realized she had won the brutal internal battle against “the seduction of inadequacy” before her award show-cased her victory to the world. Lupita had begun to change her mind about her perceived unattractiveness when she drew inspiration from another black woman who had become a celebrity2. Her views about beauty changed and she became confident in herself; I am certain that was an important ingredient that spurred her to success.
It is an age-long fact that the state of one’s mind can leave powerful signatures on one’s physical body. This profound mind-body relationship can be so powerful as to determine health, sickness and even death. With the discovery of antibiotics and anti-inflammatory drugs, scientists in the early 20th however began to discount this fact as mythical. These powerful drugs attacked infectious bugs and halted inflammatory processes thereby restoring health. This seemed to prove that physical ailments had nothing to do with the mind after all. However, with more recent development of sophisticated molecular and pharmacologic tools, the fading mind-body connection is being re-established and that at a higher level3.
For example, if you respond to stress with worry and anxiety, your body perceives a threat and begins to respond. Your body responds to your anxiety by activating what is called the ‘fight-or-flight’ response. This response involves the nervous system and stress hormones like cortisol. These serve specific purposes, helping you cope with the stress as long as they are not activated for a long time. In the context of excessive worry and anxiety however, these response elements potently predispose the body to digestive disorders, muscle tension, short-term memory loss, suppression of the immune system and premature heart attack4. It is not difficult to see the muscle tension and distortions in the face anxious individuals. It is also easy to tell from the face, who is shy or inferior.
So how do all these play into our physical appearances? Research has shown that there are certain facial anatomical features that are likely to be judged as imparting beauty, but interestingly there is no consensus5 and the same goes for body shape, stature and curves. It is not only the static structure of the face or body that imparts beauty; in fact the message carried by our facial expressions and body carriage go a long way in how people perceive our attractiveness6. Guess where that message comes from? You’re right. The mind!
Our perception about our beauty not only influences how people look at us and treat us, but also determines what happens in other aspects of our lives spatially and temporally. If one thinks of oneself as unattractive, he or she is likely to lack confidence and engage less. These are harbingers of failure in this our current age, where the ability to engage people confidently and negotiate are indispensable to success. An extreme example of a distorted self-image view is laid out in a psychological condition known as ‘Body Dysmorphic Disorder’. People with this condition have perpetual negative thoughts about their appearance. They obsess over perceived defects in one or several features of their bodies. These intrusive thoughts significantly impair their occupation and social lives. The main treatment currently available is cognitive behavioral therapy which is essentially a process of training them to think otherwise7.
As a person thinks in his mind, so is he/she says the scriptures. If you think you are beautiful, elegant, gorgeous, attractive and admirable, so are you. If you think you are ugly and unattractive, look in the mirror and that is exactly what you will see. Don’t let anyone tell you, you are unattractive, fat, round, shapeless or ugly. You might want to ask those who make such comments about you what the world-wide agreed defining standards for beauty are. Don’t let Hollywood media fool you by the ‘ideal’ woman they throw in our face-the slim, tall, curvy woman.
I want to conclude by saying we are all different when it comes to outlining the details of what makes a person attractive to us. It therefore follows that you cannot rely on anyone’s opinion of your beauty. The most important judges of your beauty are your maker (whose image you are) and you. If you firmly believe you are beautiful, then I say, “Yes you are!”
1. Oscars 2014: Winners and Losers – NYTimes.com. Available at: http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/03/movies/awardsseason/oscars-2014-winners-and-losers.html?hpw&rref=arts&_r=0.
2. Lupita Nyong’o Delivers Moving “Black Women in Hollywood” Acceptance Speech | Essence.com. Available at: http://www.essence.com/2014/02/27/lupita-nyongo-delivers-moving-black-women-hollywood-acceptance-speech/.
3. The Mind-Body Interaction in Disease | On Being. Available at: http://www.onbeing.org/program/stress-and-balance-within/feature/mind-body-interaction-disease/1183.
4. Physical Effects of Worrying. Available at: http://www.webmd.com/balance/guide/how-worrying-affects-your-body?page=2.
5. Beautiful Face Standards – From YouBeauty.com. Available at: http://www.youbeauty.com/face/beautiful-face-standards.
6. A Beautiful and Elegant Countenance of An Elegant Spirit – The First Steps to Elegance. Available at: http://www.elegantwoman.org/a-beautiful-and-elegant-countenance.html.
7. The Mirror Lies: Body Dysmorphic Disorder – American Family Physician. Available at: http://www.aafp.org/afp/2008/0715/p217.html.
Post by guest writer:
Dr. Seun Morawo
Department of Neuroscience
Graduate School of Arts and Science
New Haven, CT, USA
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When Mary Mary’s Erica Campbell posted a new photo of herself on her Instagram page to announce her recent Grammy nomination, few could have predicted the firestorm it would spark in the Christian community. In the now infamous photo Campbell is wearing a figure-hugging white dress that shows off her curves. Way more than some Christians expect to see from a Gospel singer.
A week later, the photo is still a hot topic. “I’m taking it in stride and I’m keeping it moving,” Campbell tells ESSENCE.com. “When we took the picture I felt beautiful, I felt confident, I felt sexy and I felt strong.”
“I thought I looked cute,” she says jokingly, “but it obviously offended some people, which was never my intention.”
Campbell says soon after taking the photo, she sent it to her husband, producer Warryn Campbell, and her family, who supported her. “Our whole family loved it,” says her sister Tina Campbell. “You see grace, you see beauty, you see elegance and style. It’s wholesome.” The criticism has Campbell thinking there needs to be a bigger conversation about Christianity and sexuality. “This is about confidence and realizing that God made you and that you are beautiful just the way you are,” she says. “I think that young girls shouldn’t only get sexy images from people who are not proclaiming Jesus. But I am. And I’m cute too.”
Note: some parts of this article were taken from existing online resources
Hello and welcome to my blog. I’m excited to have you read my articles and for you to leave comments every time you visit. My day job is managing IT services but I always make out time to share about my passion here at fashionniger.
Fashion is fun and I made this site so I can get to share my thoughts about fashion and to also get feedbacks from you. I believe that looking good is everyone’s business and is an act of respect to the body given to you by God. Fashion is not static, it is fluid, very personal, cultural and seasonal and these are why I love it so much.
I live in Lagos, Nigeria with my lovely husband and two beautiful kids. I have a degree in computer science and I’m currently running a masters degree in International Management.
Plus size? It’s time to step out of the box
It is generally accepted that plus size starts from US 12 or UK 16 or Euro 44. See here for women size conversion. Navigating the world of plus size fashion can be tricky for curvy girls, especially when it comes to finding cute clothing.
The good new is that being overweight doesn’t mean you can’t look fabulous! Just like every other sized woman out there, effort matters. Some spent too many years thinking they needn’t bother with effort into their appearance because they feel too fat to look pretty anyway. SO NOT TRUE! Spend a little extra on a nice hairdo, do your hair in the mornings, accessorize, wear make-up, choose outfits that make you feel confident, and indulge in some adorable shoes.
Don’t be afraid to work with what you’ve got! All it takes is a little know-how and a healthy dose of confidence. Here’s how to make the most of your curves.
Well-fitting undergarments. It’s true that your underclothes are the foundation of your look – it’s hard to look good when you’re wearing flimsy underwear that doesn’t support you sufficiently.
Buy a bra that fits (women). Not only will a good bra help lift your figure and make you look younger, it’ll help you avoid backaches. If you’re not sure what your size is, visit a department store where you can be accurately measured for fitting. In Nigeria, most big malls have one or two lingerie stores that can measure you before you make your choice.
In US, Nordstrom or Dillard’s are good places for a fitting. Do not go to Victoria’s Secret – chances are you’ll need an uncommon size, and they carry a narrow range of sizes. On the alternative, you could measure yourself and calculate your bra size using this international bra size calculator.
Make sure you have sufficient coverage. Underwear that’s too small is not underwear you should buy. If you can’t find the right size at your mall or local stores, look online.
See here for Top 10 Bra Brands for Full Bust & Plus Sized Women
Know the basics of how to accentuate or hide certain areas of your body. The colors, cut and patterns you wear can draw people’s eyes toward or away from your figure. Here are some basics:
Big patterns will make you look bigger, while small patterns can make you look smaller.
Dark colors hide, while light colors highlight. So if you like your waist, wear a light belt over a dark shirt. If you want to hide your bottom half, wear dark pants and a lighter top.
Don’t put ruffles on anything you want to look smaller; do put them on areas you want to emphasize.
Wear ruched or gathered fabric on areas you want to make look smaller. For instance, you might see a one-piece swimsuit with ruched panels over the belly.
Find fits and textiles that will flatter your bottom half. If you tend to carry your weight in your hips and legs (that is, you’re “pear-shaped”), pay extra attention to these tips:
Avoid shapeless garments, like broomstick skirts and “one-size” dresses. Instead, find something with a nipped waist.
Be very careful with leggings. For some women, a long shirt or dress with leggings is a slimming and fashionable look. However, if you have larger hips, thighs, or bottom, it can look awful.
Buy at least one pair of well-fitting jeans. Skinny or straight-leg jeans in a dark wash look great.
If you’re looking for a skirt, you can’t go wrong with an A-line cut. Avoid pencil skirts.
Seek out tailored skirts and trousers. Avoid flared pants and wide-leg trousers.
Dress to flatter your top half. Depending on your body type, this could be the difficult or easy part. If you tend to carry your weight around your stomach and shoulders (or you’re “apple-shaped”), these tips can help:
Button-down shirts must fit properly across the bust and stomach. That means there’s no pulling of the fabric at the button. If it does, the shirt does not fit.
For men, wear tailored shirts. Pay extra attention to making sure the neck and wrists are fitted.
For women, skip spaghetti-strap or halter-tops. You’ll want your shirt to cover your bra straps, and they might be wide.
If you like your forearms, wear a three-quarters sleeve. If you dislike your arms, wear full sleeves or short sleeves – breaking up your arms in the middle with a sleeve will look even more unflattering.
If you’re wearing skinny jeans or leggings, try a tunic-style top that’s a bit flowing. Wearing a top that’s not fitting is fine as long as your bottom half looks tailored and well fitted.
Wear full-length cardigans and jackets – don’t opt for cropped lengths.
Accessorize! Beautiful and unusual accessories not only make your wardrobe more versatile, they are also blind to weight gains or losses.
A big handbag bag can help make you look smaller, as it does not look tiny next to you.
Good boots, such as “equestrian-style” boots can cause the illusion of a slender calf. A good pair of boots makes wearing a skirts or pants a positive joy.
If you have heavy legs and ankles, avoid delicate or flimsy footwear; it will make it look as if you are about to fall over, or sink into the floor. A wedge heel, on the other hand, looks marvelous, however stout your legs are.
Larger women can pull off large, bold jewelry that would overwhelm smaller-framed women. Teeny earrings and pendants may get lost on you, however.
Two or three chunky bangles will make a plump wrist appear slender. Wearing long dangly earrings elongates the neck.
Focus on quality over quantity. Instead of buying numerous sloppy, frumpy pieces of clothing that don’t flatter you, invest in a few well-made items that you love and will last awhile.
Don’t just cruise the clearance racks. Sales are fine if you see something you’d buy anyway for a great price, but don’t make them the exclusive focus of your shopping. Think about it this way: A few high-quality items that make you feel amazing and last for 3 or 4 years are ultimately a better value than 10 or 15 items from the clearance rack that wear out quickly and make you feel less than your best.
Buy age-appropriate clothing (more relevant for women). Here’s a good rule of thumb: If someone 20 years younger or 20 years older than you would also be shopping in this department, then readjust. You don’t want to look too young and seem like you’re trying to hard, but you also don’t want to buy clothes that age you.
If you’re unsure, look around at the other customers – are they about the same age as you?
Look at your potential purchases from different angles. Sit down in front of the dressing-room mirror. Many overweight women do not realize that what looks good standing up is disastrous sitting down. Does your skirt ride up and show a lumpy thigh? Can you wave to a friend across the room without straining at your sleeve? If there is the least chance that you will feel uncomfortable, find an alternative: there’s nothing worse than the suspicion that any sudden movements will split your seams.
Here are 17 best stores to shop for plus size women.
Be aware of the power of illusion. Sometimes you meet women and are so bedazzled by their antique necklace, forties handbag, customized skirt and exquisite make-up, that it’s some time before you realize they’re probably a size 18. If you leave the house thinking you look fabulous, chances are several others will think so too.
Be well groomed. A size 20 woman who smells discreetly of Chanel, has a lovely manicure, sits elegantly, and sports a lush, glossy head of hair, will win out every time over a skinny girl who looks like she needs a shower.
Big hair is a great help. It balances out your size. Big women with short boyish haircuts risk the pea-head look. Shoulder-length curls are probably best, but any fullness and gloss is a great complement to round, plump shoulders and a large bust.
Cleavage is a weapon to be used whenever possible. A beautifully exfoliated and moisturized bust, not falling out but peeking out over a scoop neck or between the unbuttoned seams of a fitted shirt, will induce most people to forgive any other failings in your body. (recommended only if you’re confortable with it)
Don’t wear things that are too tight on you. A test was carried out in which two women were stood, one was wearing her size in clothes and one was wearing a size tighter and 97% women thought that the one in the smaller clothes was a larger size. Not only will wearing tight cloths cause your body parts to bulge out, it will be hard to bend, sit or even walk!
Step out of the box, wear vintage sun glasses!
You’re welcome to Checkout this site for 42 inspiring plus size outfits.
I would like to hear from all beautiful curvy girls and handsome chubby guys! please leave your comments
Note: some parts of this article were taken from existing online resources
So the much awaited black Friday is here and I hope you’re grabbing the deals! I’m busy shuffling through them and here are a few of the ones I have visited today
http://www.myhabit.com is giving up to 85% pumps, belts, sun glasses…..
http://www.konga.com if offering up to 70% off all sorts of products
http://www.dsw.com is giving free Tote bags with any shoes or handbag purchase
http://www.nyxcosmetics.com/ for wonderful lip cream, pencils, smokey eyeshadows pallets at an average price of $10
http://www.asos.com/ offers up to 25% off brands and free shipping worldwide
http://www.amazon.com is offering up to 70% off beautiful jewelries
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Have a fun filled shopping experience 🙂
Black Friday is the day after Thanksgiving Day in the USA and falls on the Friday after the fourth Thursday in November. It is a busy shopping day and is a holiday in some states in America. There would be lots of deals and sales at both online stores and walk-ins.
So what benefit is there for my Niger peeps? Folks at home can benefit from this sale-day by shopping online. (see list of online stores here).
This year’s black Friday falls on Friday, November 29 and here are some tips to help you shop like a pro:
Go on store websites a week before Black Friday and search for coupons. Everybody knows you can get coupons in paper on Thanksgiving. But department and electronic stores will have similar and sometimes better coupons that can be printed from their official website. You can usually use these deals for online shopping, as well.
Use PayPal to purchase Christmas gifts online. You can ask your friends and families in the USA to assist. PayPal offers discounts to shoppers several times during the year, including the month of December. If you have an account with PayPal, you will receive an email about this as Christmas approaches. You can also find these deals by logging into your PayPal account. Click the “Products & Services” tab on your account screen and select the “Shop online” link. On the alternative you can shop with your Master or Visa card on several websites. GTB master card is accepted on several websites but GTB may not necessary have the best offer in terms of exchange rate.
Sign up to receive emails from your favorite stores. These emails will allow you to use “online-only” discounts not available to in-store shoppers. Most electronic and department stores allow you to do this directly from their website. You can also sign up to receive these emails while in the store. Expect to receive at least two emails a week from these stores at December.
Log onto the website http://www.bargainist.com during December. This site lists the best online shopping deals. Simply put, Bargainist searches for discounts for you. Browse the home page and click on appealing links. You can even begin to search Bargainist in October, as online Christmas deals come early.
Peradventure you are in the United States at the time –
Arrive early to avoid long lines and the lunch hour rush. Typically, you will have your best shot at the widest array of price-slashed on Day 1 of a sale during the opening hour. Some sample sales replenish goods throughout the week, but in my opinion, it’s typically as good as it’s ever going to get on opening day.
Most sample sales DO NOT have dressing rooms. Even mirrors can be hard to come by. Be prepared to strip down fast in a room full of deal-hunting strangers by wearing form-fitting layers (e.g., leggings and camisoles) underneath an easy-to-remove dress, long blouse or an oversized boyfriend button-up. And bring a friend who can be your mirror.
No baggage! Don’t bring your giant handbag or shopping bags from elsewhere. You will be asked to check all “carry on” items at the door, which usually just means you’ll have to wait in yet another line once you make it inside. Carry your cash and cards in your pockets or bring a wallet with a strap so you can keep your hands free to peruse the racks. If you see something you like but aren’t sure, hold onto it! Wait until you are finished looking around and then decide.
Inspect all items by checking for holes, broken zippers, and marker markings (e.g., garment has “sample” written with a sharpie across the inside of the back). Happy shopping!
Note: some parts of this article were taken from existing online resources